Knowing what we know, what do we say?

The other day I was at my cousins birthday party where his parents my aunt and Uncle were.

My Aunt 80 and Uncle 85 have had some serious health challenges and scares this last year and without going into details, Uncle asked me my opinion on what they should do as far as there living situation.

Now I think we have all been asked this by people we have met and by close family and friends. Currently they are living on their own with help coming in, don’t drive and are very unsteady etc.

Being who I am and know my Uncle I said the truth, mentioning isolation need of help. Planning ahead for when not if something happens. He said if you were my situation would you live in an assisted living? I said yes, in both of your circumstances I would. Then because of the Teepa Training I said though, I also understand why you want to be in your home and how difficult the choice has to be. His face softened and he gave me a big hug. Just then the cake came out. He said you need to come over and we need to talk about this more. Of course we will and I will do whatever it take to make any transition easier.

Of course there was a lot more to this conversation than I shared.

The reason I share this is I am never quite sure just how much to say when someone asks me this question. Maybe there not ready to hear it? Maybe they will get mad? Etc.

This time I decided to speak from my heart and gut, share what I though professionally and as a potential caregiver to my own mother.

What are your thoughts and feelings about what I have shared?

Lori Britton, AP.BC

Certified Positive Approach to Care Independent Trainer and Coach